In this empowering episode of Call Her Daring, host Kelley Daring and guest Heather Orr (AKA Hope Peddler on Tik Tok) explore the transformative concept of "decentering men" and its profound impact on women’s lives. Delve into the ways women often place men at the center of their romantic relationships and everyday decisions, and discover the benefits of shifting the focus back to oneself.

Kelley and Heather discuss how societal conditioning has led women to prioritize men’s needs and desires, affecting their sense of self-worth and identity. This episode highlights the importance of reclaiming personal agency, living authentically, and choosing narratives that uplift and empower women.

Learn actionable steps to start centering yourself, from embracing independence to selecting media that resonates with your values. Understand that decentering men is not about rejecting them but about embracing your own needs and desires to find true happiness and fulfillment. Tune in for practical advice on achieving a balanced, self-focused life in a world that often prioritizes others.

 

Takeaways

• Decentering men involves recognizing and challenging the ways in which women often center men in their lives, from romantic relationships to everyday choices.
• Prioritizing oneself and one's own needs leads to a more authentic and fulfilling life.
• Decentering men does not mean hating men; it is about reclaiming agency and living authentically.
• Women can still have men in their lives while centering themselves; it is about reworking the dynamics of the relationship.
• Actionable steps for centering oneself include examining and challenging societal narratives, setting boundaries, and pursuing personal passions and interests. Women have been conditioned to prioritize men and their needs, which can negatively impact their sense of self-worth and identity.
• It is important for women to be radical in the storytelling they consume and choose narratives that empower and uplift them.
• Living alone can be a liberating and fulfilling experience, allowing women to prioritize their own wants and needs.
• Centering oneself and prioritizing personal happiness and growth can lead to a more fulfilling life.
• Decentering men does not necessarily mean ending relationships, but rather shifting the focus to personal growth and self-discovery.

Sound Bites

• "I swear TikTok is the most revolutionary social media app that has ever come along."
• "Do you think you had to break up with him to de-center him?"
• "This has nothing to do with hate. In fact, I know you love men."
• "Love was the icing on their cake. It was our whole goddamn meal, right?"
• "Stories are what creates humanity, right?"
• "We need to not show our daughters any of this shit, you know?"